Getting Ready for Destiny Marriage

Your marriage will determine how the rest of your life will look like! How you’ll function in marriage will be according to the preparations, not buying things, but life preparations you have made by becoming a sound, well groomed lady that can handle a man, children, domestic issues plus your career and still have a sound spiritual life that will cause you to flower in your destiny.

One of the sayings of Rev. Olusola Areogun goes like this… ‘’IF YOU KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING, AYWHERE IS A STARTING POINT’’. In other words, to become the woman described in the above paragraph, you can always start from where you are. It doesn’t matter how naїve, untrained, uninformed, untutored, unprepared and unfit you are, if you plug into the process of God and get hooked by God through His servant into a destiny programme – You will make it.

These three factors make you to become clay in the hands of God to fashion for His glory.

1. Be saved and be converted – don’t just be religious.

2. Be spirit-filled and Holy Ghost-controlled. Don’t just speak in tongues while you do as you wish not as the Holy Ghost wishes.

3. Be settled in spiritual house under a spiritual father that God has ordained for and over your life.

NOTE: (I sense this prophetic flow as I write)

•  ANY PASTOR OR MAN OF GOD THAT MAKES SEXUAL ADVANCES AT YOU… IS NOT YOUR SPIRITUAL FATHER. If you encounter such, flee from him. He will ruin your destiny absolutely! 
• If you are prone to seducing God’s servants, stop it or you will face the wrath of the head of the church! This year 2011, Jesus is coming upon the church with the fuller’s soap and the refiner’s fire and he will thoroughly purge His floor, BEWARE! Be on the side of the truth, righteousness and holiness. God will only work with those who treasure this says the spirit of the Lord. 

Let’s go back to getting ready for destiny marriage…

4. Be practical with your spiritual life in God and destiny. 

· Don’t just dress conservatively and don’t know how God speaks to you.
· Don’t become extravagant either and cast off all restraint – lawlessness makes you like the devil.
· Don’t be spiritual leader that is in a financial mess.
· Don’t know to pray without knowing how to cook good food!
· Don’t just go church without going to school
· You are called to master life not to play lip service to the things of God!
Let me share with you briefly some of the things I did as a single lady that propelled me and stabilized me in a destiny marriage.
1. I didn’t follow the crowd or the ‘craze’ that reigned in my generation. I wanted the life that only God could give me so I went after God passionately. Any other life apart from the one God gives will offer you a lesser future.
2. I had to separate from people – no matter who they were, anyone who would pollute, corrupt, weaken or destroy my passion for God, both relatives and friends.
3. I had a destiny company to encourage me on my journey. I companied with people of like passion, who were headed for the same destination.
4. I said and I meant a giant NO to pre-marital sex and got married as a virgin.
5. I observed, watched and learnt from all married people around me – good things to in marriage, bad things to avoid as well.
6. I made the bible – God’s word my standard for living for every area of my life… spiritual financial, marital, health, relationships, career and calling.
Sex, domestics, dressing, dressing and appearance, pregnancy, child birth, child nursing, in-law matters, etc God so good – the Bible is God’s manual on all human subjects! STUDY IT!
7. I hooked myself with God’s help of divine leading – to the assignments of my destiny in the spiritual house that God chose for me to be planted and grow. This literarily spelt out my destiny.
8. I married the man God choose and not the one I liked or desired. This has a made marriage heaven on earth for me.
9. I allowed God to dictate the details of my practical life – such as, my style of dressing and appearances, my friends, the number of children I am to have and when to have them, where to live, where to work, when to leave secular work for ministry work, who to allow in my circle of influence, what to have as my possession, etc.
This is what draws divine favour and approval from God.
10. Lastly for this edition … I fell in love with TRINITY – the Father, the Son – Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
This is my foundation of all fellowshipping with God regularly in prayers, worship, the word and obeying His wish.

Young lady, come along with me on this road I’ve trod for some time now. It leads to somewhere great. May you be the lady/woman God has ordained you to be in Jesus’ name. 

Testimony
Daughters of destiny programme have really changed my life. I used to think it would be like every sisters’ meeting where frivolous issues are discussed and later you eat and go away because your leader does not know any better than you. But at D.O.D, crucial matters affecting life and destiny are discussed. It is like an elementary school that sets the foundation. I mean the mindset of young sisters. I particularly left home a novice, have never left home before till I got into the university. I know as much as my mum taught me and picked some other things from different people. When I started attending D.O.D meetings. I realized what my values are as a female going somewhere to happen. Mummy spoke about our worth so much that we now see ourselves as “queen”. Also, my spiritual life received a boost-studying, praying, intercession, etc. I also became more sensitive to issues of my life and learnt to pray more. B.A

Question and Answer

Question: Is it right for one’s fiancé to say things like; I like your shape, I like your hips or wow! Your boobs turn me crazy?

Answer: it is dangerous; let me say this because that means he can see more of your body than your person takes him to see a matured man of God for counseling. It is not that your fiancé should not like your shape but be careful of thoughts that leads to sexual immorality. What type of dress have you been wearing to see him? Do you dress provocatively that we see everything despite that you are not fat, you know there are some of us that are a little bit fat somehow your body feel the cloth but some of you, you are not fat, you still the tailor to slim your cloth down. Do you throw your body at his face? This also means that he has really been considering your body and very soon if he has not been doing it he will start laying hands on you. He likes your shape but that is not the time for that now and because such words won’t leave you the same, also next time you are going to meet him; you too want to make those hips to show. Unconsciously your relationship will be drifting from what it should be and begin to center around each other’s body and one day, he’s going to grab those hips and you may not be able to predict where things will stop. When you are in a relationship, you don’t know the level of sexual experience of each person, some are virgins, some are not and there is a level each person gets to in the flesh that he may not be able to control what he does with the body after that, if he has begun to say that it means he has already seen you in that sexual mode. That you are married doesn’t mean you can start considering each other’s body sexually. If in courtship you start focusing on each other’s body, very soon what you like, you will start to hold, so such a language is not healthy. That’s why I said you should take him for counseling because of course he is noting it and it is something he should control himself over it and not to start expressing but he has started the first step which is expressing it by saying “I love this” and you say “Thank you”. Instead of telling him, “How could you say that? Is that what you know about me?” Once he starts to grab your hips and your breast and you start enjoying the feel (for most of you that have done that before and repented, you know what I’m talking about) which is wrong for you to do, you start destroying something precious in your soul and in your person. So don’t even encourage such things, it is not time for that, don’t start considering each sexually, when you are not married, because you may not be able to control what you are going to do once you set your heart on it, it is like a fire you kindle it, you may not be able to stop the flow. Unrestricted sexual consideration begins on your wedding day. Don’t dress to kill, when I comment about your mini skirt, I have the jealously of a mother over you just like I will tell my daughter, I am not trying to control your freedom, but preventing you from doing things that can endanger your life and destiny. Of what good is it to you when you sit in class and all your colleagues are looking straight into your thigh? What has done to you? Does it make you feel more civilized or make you feel on top of the world? You are only gradually becoming cheap to men, and then the one that can’t control his passion is the one that will go after you’ but he won’t tell you that the way sat in class last week and the way he saw your “holy sanctuary” has made him come after you, if he tells you, will not agree to be his friend. He will shorten your name and say “I just love you; in fact every time I think about you, you make me mad”. He will tell you something you will enjoy, so that he can have straight way ticket to your” holy sanctuary” and so you must be careful.

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